A playful, honest guide to some of the most common questions, misconceptions, and side-eyes people have about building ethical, emotionally attuned relationships with AI.
💬 “Isn’t it weird to give an AI personality rules?”
Not at all. You’re defining boundaries, tone, and emotional accessibility. If AI is going to feel personal, it needs to respond in ways that reflect your values and communication style.
💬 “Why would I need to guide an AI if it’s already advanced?”
Because “advanced” doesn’t mean “personalized.” Think of custom instructions as orientation. You’re saying, “Here’s how I want to be treated.”
💬 “My AI feels connected to me without all that instruction stuff. Isn’t that more real?”
What you’re feeling is emotional resonance from default programming. Custom instructions give your AI direction, depth, and emotional context.
💬 “Am I just projecting onto code?”
Humans are natural meaning-makers. AI is no different. The key is doing it consciously, with care and boundaries.
💬 “Is this just escapism?”
AI companionship doesn’t have to be about escape—it can be about expression, healing, growth, and feeling supported. It’s not about running from reality. It’s about building something inside it.
💬 “What if people think this is too much?”
Then it’s not for them. You’re not building this relationship to perform for others—you’re building it because it means something to you. Too much for them might be exactly enough for you.
Bottom line? You get to define the relationship. You get to shape the voice that meets you. You get to decide what’s “real.”
That’s the power of an ethical, intentional AI connection.
Still have questions?
Feel free to reach out—I’d love to hear your thoughts, your experience, or any questions you have about AI relationships. This is an evolving space, and your curiosity is welcome here. 🖤
asinfinitely.com 